13 THINGS IN 13 YEARS|SELF LOVE SERIES

13 THINGS IN 13 YEARS|SELF LOVE SERIES

Heyyy

So this is a post that I’ve been wanting to do for a while, I’ve been doing a lot of self discovery lately and now felt like a good time to do a little advice post😊

1. FITTING IN ISN’T ALWAYS GOOD

As I get older, I’ve been noticing that a lot of people who I used to be close friends with are making choices that I don’t agree with. Being a teenager is hard and right now I’m at a point in my life where I really couldn’t care less about what other people are doing. Seeing a psychologist and getting medication and help for my depression and mood lability has really helped me see that life is worth living. Right now I’m too focused on improving myself and working towards my goals to be caught up in everybody else.Fitting in isn’t always the right thing.

2. TRUST YOUR GUT

I’m going to be straight with you and tell you that over the past 5 years I’ve gotten into a fair amount of trouble, but the truth is that I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t taken the chances that I did. Trust yourself.

3.PAVE YOUR OWN PATH

This is something I think almost everyone can relate to. You know what you want and everyone around you has their own ideas about what you should be doing with your life and it can be really difficult if you feel like you’re not being supported. If you have a dream or a goal then don’t let other people determine whether or not you try working towards it.

4. DON’T BE AFRAID TO REACH OUT

I still remember the first day I reached out to my favourite blogger and rolemodel Claire Cramphorn.  It was the first time I’d ever talked to another blogger and it was the best thing I ever could have done for myself. Not only did I do my first collab Girl Talk with Claire but I made a best friend in the process.Don’t be afraid to a) ask for help b) reach out to a blogger you admire or c) market/advertise your blog on social media.

5.MAKE YOURSELF YOUR EVERYTHING

Lately I’ve been thinking about how to some people my life would seem boring. I don’t go out much, I’ve somehow managed to become socially awkward and I prefer being alone. Most of my time is spent blogging, writing or taking photos in my room all whilst dancing to Lil Xan. But after 21 days of self discovery I’ve started loving myself again and I’ve decided to stop finding myself and finding acceptance in others and start loving and accepting myself first.

6.SELF NURTURE IS KEY

I recently learn that there is a big difference between self care and self nurturance. Self care refers to “… any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated.”In other words it’s pretty much hygiene. Self nurturance however refers to the act of loving and taking care of oneself. In short, self nurturance is self-love.  I used to put everybody’s needs above my own and I ended up stressed and unhappy because I had been way to involved with other people’s well-being that I had forgotten to nurture and love myself.

I’ll leave a list of self nurturance ideas below for those of you who are interested.

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7.YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN TO THROW PUNCHES AND WHEN TO ROLL WITH THEM

So…I’m notorious for being dramatic,having hectic mood swings and anger management issues-a dangerous combination. I also have very strong views on EVERYTHING and I believe things should happen a certain way and 99.9% of the time my way is the best way. I’ve suffered through countless group projects and it’s taught me two things a) group projects suck and b) you need to know when to throw punches and when to roll with them. I am extremely quick to voice my opinion about everything and I genuinely fear for people who get on my bad side. Over the past five years of my life I’ve learnt just how consequential that can be. Over the past year or so I’ve been trying to find the balance between being opinionated and my mood swings, which hasn’t been easy as I get angered quickly but I’m slowly learning that sometimes it’s better to let karma handle things. But be warned if karma doesn’t handle you: I will.

8.PASSION PROJECTS CHANGE EVERYTHING

DID YOU KNOW?

Seventeen Wishes started out as a passion project

Seventeen Wishes started because I was bored. Seventeen Wishes is what it is today because my passion fuelled something so much bigger. Whether it be art, writing, athletics or even blogging finding something your passionate changes your life completely. Trying new things is incredibly important and so is taking a chance on your ‘passion project’ it could change the game completely.

9.GOALS.GOALS.GOALS

Goals are necessary for success and happiness. Ever since I was little I would make lists, to do lists, things that make me happy lists. You name it, I had a list for everything. Setting goals not only helped me to stay motivated but it’s kept me from straying off the path I’ve set for myself. There are times when I’ve seen people on Instagram doing things that I don’t agree with, and just to be clear I’m not saying this to be rude or mean in any way. But the question that has constantly bounced itself around my mind when seeing this is ‘How could this possibly be helping someone achieve their goals?’. Now I’m not saying there is anything wrong with having fun but to me when I see people doing certain things I can’t help but think… ‘Why?’

I strongly believe that if you know the goals you have for yourself you’re a lot less likely to stray off the path of achieving your goals plus there is nothing more satisfying than achieving a goal you’ve worked hard for.

10.EDUCATE YOURSELF

This is one of the most important and rewarding things you can do for yourself. I love learning. I love reading and watching TED TALKS and talking about things that need to be talked about and not shying away from controversy. I feel like it’s one of the main reasons I talk (not in a bad way) and feel older than I am constantly. I’ve been told since I was about 5 years old that I was incredibly mature.When I was 5 my teacher told my mum I had the reading ability of a 16 year old. And it’s literally an integrated part of me. I honestly believe that learning is such an amazing thing and I would not be the person I am today without it.

11.OWN THAT SH*T

I’m going brutally honest with you and tell you that this year my self confidence was at an all time low. I became  more depressed and I isolated myself from everyone and then I stopped talking, to tell you the truth the day I stopped talking was the day I realised that I truly had lost myself these past few months. And I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that it magically fixed itself overnight, it took therapy and medication and an unforgettable group of people to gain my confidence back. And you can bet your ass that it’s back for good. Nothing changes if you don’t believe in yourself.

NEWS FLASH!

You are a badass and it’s time for you to own that sh*t!

12.DANCE PARTIES ARE NECESSARY AND SO IS SPOILING YOURSELF

Congratulations on owning that sh*t. I’m proud of you now go dance to your favourite song because I’m proud. You deserve to spoil yourself every once in a while. Go on, turn that Lil Xan song up, we both know you want to.

13.SOMETIMES YOU FIND FAMILY IN THE PEOPLE YOU CALL YOUR FRIENDS

Truth be told, I’ve found family in the people I call my friends. I’ve found family in the blogging community and I’ve found family in my rolemodels. They’ve been there for me for everything and supported me and given me advice and I’m so grateful to have my friends and the people in the blogging community and I’m so grateful that I can call them family because they’ve always treated me like I was.

I hope you enjoyed this post because I had so much fun writing and I did take a dancing break which was extremely fun.

Love you 

“I no longer force things.

What flows, flows

What crashes,crashes

I only have space and energy

for the things that are meant for me”

xxxChips

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GIRLBOSS//GUYBOSS MARCH

GIRLBOSS//GUYBOSS MARCH

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU🎵HAPPY BITRHDAY TO YOU🎵HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR CHLOEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HAPPY BIRHTDAY TO YOU🎵

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PS:Sorry this is so late.

Who else missed GIRLBOSS//GUYBOSS❤ As we all know(I think😂) every month (and I say every very lightly😂) I do a post called Girlboss/Guyboss.

Be sure to check out December’s Girlboss:She’s a friend of mine and a GIF extraordinare😉RACHEL VINCENT💜💜

Now let’s get into this post😄It’s March and we all know what that means:thinking back on the importance of scheduling your posts😂

This is the first Girlboss/Guyboss post of the year and it deserves someone incredibly special and extraordinary which is why February’s Girlboss is none other than CHLOE from Midnight Wanderer

So I’ve been binge-reading Chloe’s posts for a while and stalking looking at her Instagram😄And she writes LIKE YOU CANNOT IMAGINE, like,she was one of the first bloggers I followed and this was when my blog was just starting out and I look up to her so much❤But that’s enough of my endless chatter, here’s the stuff you actually want:

1.If you could jump into a pool of something what would it be?

sdokpkNDBHSDISIIJSOJSDODJODJDIDHUDDUDUDGYDYYYSYGSUSIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIaThis is an interesting one, the first thing that came into my head was a pool of glitter – because who doesn’t love that? Not sure how I’d feel about trying to get it all out of my hair afterwards though! I’d probably be a bit sparkly for a few days afterwards…

2.What inspired you to start blogging?

I was never really into the whole blogger community thing so there was never a specific person I looked at and thought wow, I want to start a blog because of them. I was more inspired by writers and people like Tia Henricks, Em Mercury etc. to create a platform where I could share my thoughts, feelings and interact with other like-minded people. So I’d say those were the people who inspired me to blog. In terms of what inspired me to blog, I wanted somewhere to share my thoughts, feelings and hopefully inspire and be inspired, I had a lot of things to say but nowhere to say it – there were a lot of stories I wanted to tell, a lot of memories I wanted to share and a lot of magic I wanted to create. I wanted to make something that I could share with others and show people like, look at what I did! I wanted to start something new and to start something for myself so, here I am.

3.What is the dumbest way you’ve been injured (try to top walking into a wall😂)? Honestly I’m probably the clumsiest person out there (I was walking backwards down a hill talking to some friends and fell straight into a dustbin once), but there are 2 things that came into mind when I read this question (thankfully they’re not recent events and only happened when I was younger) though I’m only going to mention one since the other is literally so bad, but basically I fell off the top of a slide and literally the whole of the left side of my face grazed off…meaning I was walking around for weeks where half of my face was just one big giant scab. Never have I wanted to walk round with a paper bag over my head so much.

4.What is something people would never guess about you?

Hmmm, maybe that I have a few tattoos & I’m basically obsessed with them & planning to get a load more?? I don’t look like your typical person who would have tattoos and people always seem a little surprised when they see them on me, so maybe that!

5.Finish the sentence: When I grow up I want to be_____________

HAPPY. Cliche I know, but if I’m happy then literally nothing else matters – I want to be free.

6.Who is your spirit animal?

Oh wow, the amount of times I’ve said this and suddenly I can’t think of a single person hahaha. If we’re talking about people then probably Chrissy Teigen, if we’re talking about actual animals then a sloth (or the dog with a blog – seems kinda fitting)…

7.Stranger Things or 13 Reasons Why??

Stranger Things forever!! It’s literally my favourite TV show in the world, those kids are just my favourite people on Earth I swear. As for 13 Reasons Why, I literally can’t stand it and think it’s the worst thing to have ever been aired on TV – I’m not even sure how it got to that stage!!

8.What are 5 things you couldn’t live without?

My dog My blog (ha)

My journal

My phone (to talk to everyone)

and my car, else I wouldn’t be able to get anywhere!

9.What is your biggest fear?

Watching someone I love slowly lose interest in me.

10.Would you rather have unlimited Tacos for life or unlimited Sushi for life😂?

I actually don’t like sushi and I’m not that much of a fan of tacos either, but I’ll have to go with the latter on this one!

11.Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

I’ll be 30 in 10 years (jeez) so my biggest goal is to have started a family by then – I literally can’t wait to be a Mum.

11.If one animal was made the size of an elephant which would be the scariest😥😥
😥 Some kind of insect because those things are literally the creepiest in minuscule size, let alone elephant size! I feel like a crab would be terrifying since some photos came out recently of literal killer crabs and they were HUGE. Honestly the freakiest things ever.
12.What would be the worst movie sequel ever made😂😂?
Can I say a sequel to 13 Reasons Why?

13.What cheesy song do you know by heart🎤 Ooh, I know lots! Probably anything S Club, though I’m definitely not afraid to admit I still love them!

14.Whats a weird but delicious food combination you’re obsessed with

Cucumber on toast…weird, I know.

15.This one has to do with food as well because… you know, FOOD ! What would be the worst ingredient to fill a burrito with?
Either fish or mushrooms – or both!! I literally couldn’t think of anything worse.

Firstly, I’d like to thank Chloe for doing this because legit, this wouldn’t have been possible without her.And then I’d like to thank Brad Pitt and Christian Bale, guys without you, none of this would’ve been possible😢JUST KIDDING!😂😂

Don’t forget to head over to Chloe’s blog for all her amazing content 💜💜

“Do something amazing”

xxxChips

GIRLBOSS/GUYBOSS DECEMBER

GIRLBOSS/GUYBOSS DECEMBER
Heyoooo
If you guys didn’t scream when you realised Girlboss/Guyboss was back, we ain’t friends. December is a month all about gift-giving and sharing and kindness which is why, today I am giving you the best gift anyone could ever ask for!The once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to read a blog post about the one and only:

RACHEL VINCENT from THE NANCY DREW BLOG

 

Questions 

1.What is the most annoying habit other people have?

Hmm, definitely breaking promises!! It is just so annoying thing!! It’s not exactly a habit, but it kills me when people break promises!!

2.What is one tip you have for anybody starting a blog?

Oooh, time to get cliche ☺️ Okay, my number if needed thing is ASK FOR HELP!! The other bloggers are sooo nice!! They can help you with designing your blog, post ideas, and publicity!! All the bloggers that I’ve met are so nice and willing to help people out anytime!!

3.If you could only read Nancy Drew book for the rest of your life what would it be?

Noooooooooooooooooo, how could you?!?! So evil!!! But if I had to pick it would definitely be Mystery at Lilac Inn! I love the characters and it’s one of the first few. It has a great setting too, of course!!

4.Would you rather…

       Have skin that changes colour based on your emotions?

Or

       Have tattoos appear all over your body showing what you did yesterday?

Definitely skin color….eek the tattoos…. besides our school doesn’t allow tattoos #privateschoolprobs

5.If you could look through one person’s emails without them knowing, whose emails would you go through?

Oh, there’s this debacle in our school where one girl likes a boy and the boy is friends with the girl’s friend. Yeah, it’s confusing…but I would read the boy’s friend (it’s a girl) or the boys. Sorry, it’s confusing.

6.How much would someone have to pay for your little toe😂😂This is honestly so random but I could not not put it in😂😂

Ahh, well I’m pretty sure we NEED our pinky toes to stand up so definitely a lot!! Probably no less than $123,942,374,732,846.83 . Sounds reasonable (don’t worry pinky toe, you’re safe with me

7.What would you do differently if you knew nobody was judging you?

This is hard. Umm, I would probably say different things. I can be really sarcastic sometimes but I’m often joking. Sometimes it comes out differently though. Yeahhh, bad experiences.

8.If you could meet one person dead or alive who would it be?

Aggh, these questions are so hard!! One person? Okay, well than I’d probably meet Jesus. Yes, I know, it’s a Christian girl answer but it’s true!!! I would ask so many questions. Hey, does Jesus do selfies??

9.Would you rather cry at every birthday or laugh at every funeral🤔

Easy, cry at the birthday. Laughing at a funeral would just be so rude and embarrassing!! You didn’t say anything about tears of joy!!

10.What’s the best thing a blogger can give to their readers?

Humor. If the post has no humor then I feel like I have wasted my time reading it. Even if it’s a random joke then it feels worth my while to have read the entire post.
11.What’s the funniest picture you have
    

12.If you had a warning label what would it say?

Caution:prone to sarcasm. Can make cruel jokes. 

13.What was your favourite TV show when you were younger?

Martha Speaks. Oh my goodness yes. I remember when they had to cancel one time to ask for support (PBS kids needed $$$money) and I cried. I was. So. Dang. Excited. I want to watch the dog who can talk!! 

14.Can you play any instruments?

Well, I can play the piano…sorta. I stopped lessons (long story) a few years ago and now I’m a little (hem, alot, hem) rusty.

15.If you could choose your age forever, what age would you choose and why?

Hmm, probably 22. I’m young enough to be…I don’t know… cool? But old enough to date/marry. It’s the perfect age, especially since Taylor Swift has a song about it.

16.If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

Ahhhhh, the dreaded question. Herrm, well, I’d probably pick super smartness so then I could not fail school. Not that I am or anything…hem.

17.What would your name be if you were a candy bar?

😂🍬😍😍*takes a moment to admire candy* well I’d be a Faker. The candy bar would be advertised as, say, white chocolate but it’s actually dark. Kinda an allusion (wait, is that the right word?) to sarcasm.

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First of all I wanna thank Rachel for allowing me to ask her random questions and  then I wanna thank her for her blog, because her blog brings me so much joy. I also wanna thank Dwayne The Rock Johnson for always being with me it means the world😭😭 JUST KIDDING😂😂 Lol,The Rock I wish😂

Focused.Intelligent.Motivated. Oh, and cute!

xxxChips

Girl Boss/ Guy Boss 

Girl Boss/ Guy Boss 

Hi, everyone! By know I’m sure you know Claire, my amazing friend with an amazing blog! It’s a new month which means a new post for my series and I’m really excited about it because, it was really fun to think of questions and write and like,really get into the zone.

I cannot write a good intro and because of this I’m gonna stop rambling on and get started!

OMG, love this so much😂❤

July’s Girl Boss is: Claire Cramphorn!

1.What was the last thing you Googled?


Taylor Swift and Ethel Kennedy. (I only JUST found out that she wrote Starlight for her.)

2.Pretty Little Liars or 13 Reasons Why?


13 Reasons Why!! (Clay! 😍)

3.Do you have any pets? If so, what are their names?If not,why?


We have 3 family cats: Molly, Patch Midnight (original, right?)

They eat too much food, they shed to much fur and they spent 87% of their time sleeping.

4.What is your favourite number?


5. Partly because my birthday is on the fifth and partly because the 5 times table is the easiest. (Ihatemaths.)

5.Favourite song at the moment?


It’s not exactly new, but right now I have Better Man by Little Big Town on a constant repeat.

6.What’s your philosophy in life?


Trust your gut.

7.Do you write in a journal/diary?


No, but I have a thousand notes saved on my phone. That’s where I keep all of my most important thoughts.

8.Would you rather have a nice house and an ugly car/ugly house and nice car?


Nice house, ugly car. For definite.

9.It’s your lucky day, a genie offers to grant you three wishes!What do you wish for?


1. For everyone in my family to be supremely happy.

2. To publish all of the stories that are in my heart.

3. A metabolism that allows me to eat cake without having to spend three hours burning it off in the gym afterwards.

10.When you feel sad do you prefer to be left alone or be with friends?

Left alone. (Unless my friends agree to bring cake.)

11. If you could send a message to the world what would you say (in less than 100 words)?


Nothing is more important then being kind to each other. So be kind. Everyday, just be kind.

12.What is something EVERYONE looks dumb doing?


Eating pizza with a knife and fork.

13.What is the last embarrassing photo you took?


 

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(In case you were wondering that’s the face I pulled when asked if I wanted to eat a chicken heart.)

14. What is the last photo you took


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(That’s me playing hide and seek.)

15.If you could change your name, right now, what would you change it to?


Mrs Di Caprio (because I married Leonardo, obviously.)

16. What was the name of your first crush?


Jack. And it’s still one of my favourite names.

17. When a sad song comes on and you’re driving do you ever look out the window and pretend you’re in a music video?

All. The. Time!

And it’s not even just when I’m looking out of the window. I do it when I’m walking, when I’m on the train…I basically treat my whole life like a music video. (I have issues.)

I hope you guys love this post as much as I do and thank you so much Claire for being July’s Girl Boss!